Are you not sure what went wrong?  Are you frustrated that you’ve invested months or even years of your life, only to have to keep starting over?  Does he or she need “space” or are they becoming distant?

In matters like this, there many factors to consider.  The three most important things to remember when approaching this situation are:

• You can not control he or she’s actions. (agree with the breakup)
• You can control YOUR own behavior.
• Time is of the essence.

The approach of LoveRestore.com is to focus on your own behavior to stack the odds in your favor.  If the situation is handled correctly, chances are he or she will come running back!

Do you have these symptoms?

• Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry
• Loss of appetite
• Binge eating for comfort
• Calling your ex several times a day
• Text messaging and emailing constantly (Text Message Terrorism)
• Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called
• Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call
• Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you
• Feeling massively depressed
• Feeling urges to spy on them
• Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said
• Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them

…and when you do get in touch with your ex, it usually turns ugly because you don’t have a clear plan of what you are supposed to do…what happens? Panic and defensiveness sets in and then come the arguments.

Are you making these mistakes with your ex?

• Trying to convince them we are the love of their life
• Apologizing profusely for everything
• Promising to change for good “this time”
• Trying to convince them that it wasn’t really our fault
• Begging them to take you back

…and of course with every word you utter, regardless of your intention, the more and more defensive, angry and distant they become.

Please know…this is not your fault! You weren’t taught this in school. You probably weren’t taught this by your parents…and there is no “get your ex back” night school…

But that’s just the start… Once you’ve got them back you want to prevent this from happening again.  We cover that too!

Tags: advice, love, r elationship

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